Breastfeeding Carnival: Day 14–Final Day

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This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is about the importance of breastfeeding. Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th through the 31st!
 


 

How You Influence Others: What do you think is the most important thing that you do to influence pregnant and new moms to breastfeed? Do you have a story of a mom who you feel you’ve really helped?

 The most important thing I do for new mothers is to model breastfeeding in public.  The second most important thing I do is to be willing to talk to any new mom who needs it. I had a coworker whose wife was having breastfeeding problems.  I have him my home phone and told her to call me whenever she needed to. I also gave her La Leche League’s number.  On Twitter, I try to answer questions and provide support to new moms, and at least one has said I helped her get through the tough times and make it.  I try not to give bad advice, so if someone has a question I can’t answer, I don’t.  I hate when people give advice just because they don’t want to NOT give advice!  My sister-in-law nursed her toddler while pregnant and after the baby was born against the advice of her friends because I had done it with mine, and she knew it could be done!  She also said she felt comfortable nursing her two year old because I nursed a two year old!  That makes me feel really good.

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Breastfeeding Carnival: Day 11

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Importance of Breastfeeding: Why is breastfeeding personally important to you? Who helped you to first see why breastfeeding would be such a benefit? You know what they say–there’s nothing like word of mouth.

 Breastfeeding is important to me because it’s not easy to do at first, and I did it.  I had problems with my first and last babies, and I still made it to nurse them the longest.  It means that I’m giving physically of myself to my babies.  My first and last are both comfort nursers, and to see how happy it makes them when they are done warms my heart.  I also am a “lazy parent” and love that I can travel at a moment’s notice without preparing any bottles!

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Breastfeeding Carnival: Day 9

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This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is about the importance of breastfeeding. Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th through the 31st!
 


 

Breastfeeding and Multiples: No we’re not just talking about twins, triplets, etc. Any way that you breastfeed with multiple children. Maybe you’ve breastfed while trying to conceive, maybe you’ve breastfed while pregnant, maybe you’ve tandem nursed, maybe you’ve just breastfeed a younger child while chasing the older one. How does breastfeeding help you parent? What are the challenges?

I nursed my first child for 28 months, and she is only 26 months older than her younger sister.  Because she was over a year old when I got pregnant, I noticed no change in her nursing desires or ability. By then, she was nursing one-two times per day.  My second child latched on like a pro, and I always suspected it was because I was still nursing her older sister.  Unfortunately, my second child was only 6 months old when I got pregnant with her sister.  My milk production went way, way down.  Because I had read that milk production goes back up in the second trimester, I tried to keep nursing her and nursing her during the first three months trying to get through to that fourth month, but it didn’t work.  She was always hungry, so after two months, I gave her formula.  I tried to keep nursing her at bed time so she would at least have that, but she didn’t want it.  For her, breastfeeding was primarily about food and secondarily about comfort, and she was fine with just being cuddled to sleep without nursing (we bedshared).

 I wish I could have tandem nursed my second and third child, and I’m still sad about that.

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Breastfeeding Carnival: Day 8

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This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is about the importance of breastfeeding. Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th through the 31st!
 


 

First Nursing in Public Experience: This could be anything from the first time you witnessed a mother breastfeeding in public to the first time you did it yourself. How did you feel about it then? How do you feel about it now?

I’ll never forget my first real nursing in public experience.  We were in an airport in Houston waiting for a delayed flight on Christmas Eve 2002, my daughter’s first birthday.  I had no choice but to nurse her in public, and I did!  It was an empty section of a terminal and I tried to cover up with a blanket, but she was not having that.  She kept pulling the blanket off of her head, so I gave up trying.  It was liberating!

I still try to pick quiet corners (less distractions make for quicker nursing sessions), and in restaurants, I tell the server ahead that I might breastfeed and ask for a corner table.  I’ve never once had a negative comment.  Maybe I’m lucky being in California, but I’ve never been treated poorly for breastfeeding in public—and I’ve done it with four babies over nine years!

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Breastfeeding Carnival: Day 7

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Online Breastfeeding: This is the internet age. Many of us log on more than we’d care to admit, but in the case of a new mother that can possibly be a good thing. How did the internet influence your breastfeeding? Did you participate in online forums, Facebook, Twitter, or any other kind of online community? Did this influence your parenting choices? Did these influences help or hinder your efforts?

My online community was an amazing source of help. In 2001, I practically lived on the “Due in December” message boards originally at Epregnancy then moved to Geoparents as the children were born, (which was then was sold to someone else and started sucking).

We were a very close community and it got me through my first full pregnancy with a lot less worry. Any concern I had was a concern from someone else and we all learned what was normal from each other. As an AP mom, I felt a lot of support from other moms out there who also were into Attachment Parenting. I co-slept, and found vindication and support from other bedsharing mamas.

I faded out of the message boards after a while, and didn’t get back into the online community until the birth of my fourth baby and my discover of Twitter. In some ways, better than the message boards for immediate conversation (though I love the fact that you can go back and read specific responses to specific questions on a message board). I’m pretty sure if I had Twitter way-back-when, I would have tried homebirth! The support from other mothers is amazing.

 


 
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Breastfeeding Carnival: Day 6

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Birth Experience: How did your birth experience affect your decision to breastfeed? Did the people present at your child’s birth truly support breastfeeding? Did you get off to a good start or did you have to fight to figure things out? Did you receive good information on breastfeeding from your birth attendants?

My birth experience didn’t influence my decision to breastfeed, but my final birth did influence how difficult it was to breastfeed.

My fourth child was a C-Section after one induced, epidural birth, and two induced but painkiller free births. With my first three, I was induced two weeks after the due date. With my last, I was induced one week BEFORE my due date. I was dilated to 10 and pushed and pushed, but he didn’t budget. He was comletely stuck at the cervix, so after consulting with another doctor, my Obsetrician recommended a C-Section. She said she was concerned that this was my fourth child, and was concerned that he may have been tangled in the cord or unable to move through the birth canal for other reasons. I consented because I wanted to make sure he was safe.

I lost a lot of blood during the C-Section and was very anemic after the surgery. I was alone in the hospital for nearly an entire week with the baby. My husband had three small children to take care of at home, and tried to visit once a day with them, but they were so wild when he was there, that I got very little help. Getting out of bed alone was very, very difficult with the surgery and stitches. It was difficult to position the baby while sitting up in the hospital bed, and very difficult to adjust my positioning in a narrow hospital bed, while I couldn’t even sit up without pulling on the side rails. My wonderful nursing pillow was almost useless in the bed position, and side-lying was impossible. Add to that, a baby who couldn’t or wouldn’t open his mouth very wide to nurse comfortably, and it was a recipe for disaster. I was convinced that he had a hard time nursing because he was born three weeks too soon. All of my children were two weeks late, and him being induced one week early meant he was three weeks younger than his sisters were.

I nursed and cried and supplemented with formula, but was determined to work it out. I gave him very little formula after nursing. I would allow him to suck for a few seconds, then remove the bottle and wait for his reaction to make sure he didn’t overeat as I wanted him to be hungry in 2 hours like he would be with straight nursing. I got the slowest flow nipples I could, as well. Finally, after a MONTH of work, work, work, he was nursing full time, no supplementing, and he’s 26 months now and still nursing.
 


 
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Breastfeeding Carnival: Day 5

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Nursing in Public: What are your views on breastfeeding in public? How do you feel a mother breastfeeding in public influences others in public? Do you feel breastfeeding in public helps to normalize breastfeeding?

All mothers should breastfeed in public. It definitely influences people. Yes, a lot of people get offended, but a lot of people don’t. I think nursing in public is best for the children, so they grow up seeing it and thinking it’s normal.

I nursed my then-11 month old at a birthday party I attended for a kindergartner. There were a lot of children around. I pulled a chair off to the side in some shade to feed my baby. Some of the kids came around and asked what I was doing. I told them I was feeding the baby. One said that her mom “doesn’t do that. She just uses a bottle.” I said some moms use a bottle, and some do this. She went on her way to play in the bounce house. One of the grandma’s approached me and said that she loved that I was breastfeeding. She was from another country. I find most of my positive reactions have been from people from other countries who are happy to see and American woman breastfeeding.

My daughter’s teacher had a baby just before the end of the school year, and returned to work for the last two weeks. They allowed her to bring the baby with her, and she nursed the baby in class. I thought that was fantastic! Imagine all children seeing breastfeeding. When they are grown, it won’t seem icky or gross. It will be something normal!

 


 
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